Friends, especially really good friend, can find themselves a tad bit possessive and territorial. While this seems terribly absurd, it is the truth. It is totally normal and understandable since you spend so much time with this other person and care for them dearly. Plus, with friendship comes two very strong traits that come into question with ‘poachers’-loyalty and history. But accusing someone of stealing a friend is a big deal and before you throw around an accusing finger, you should really consider a matter closely. Are you feeling this way because you’re just feeling jealous? Are they getting together over things you don’t like anyway? Is there a deliberate attempt to keep you out of the friendship? So be honest with yourself. If you can’t see things objectively, ask for an unbiased opinion and give them the full story.
You can either follow this two ways if you want her back.
Addressed it head on. It’s best to go to your friend, instead of the actual ‘poacher’. Your goal is to maintain a friendship, not pick a fight! Try to speak calmly and say things like “I feel like you has being really cold towards me. It’s made me feel really left out.” By focusing on how you’re feeling, you shy away from being accusatory, which can make your friend defensive.
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Try including yourself in the circle. Instead of seeming desperate or trying to forcefully fit in, you’re suggested to organising a day out and including the both of them and possibly even more people. If the ‘napper’ is just lacking attention, introducing her to more friends will help her release her latch on your bestie.
TRY YOUR BEST! ;D
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